The Day an Author Suggested I Kill Myself

I’ve been book reviewing for one year and seven months now.  Comparatively I haven’t been around for very long in the blogging world, but I have been around long enough.  What’s ‘long enough’?  Well, I’ve been blogging long enough to have trolls try to start flame wars and authors attack me for having an opinion and expressing said opinion.  I’ve learned to deal with it because, hey, most authors and commenters are awesome people.  I was also blessed with a thick skin as well as an iron-clad commenting policy that I’ve always followed.

Compared to the experiences of some book bloggers I’ve had it pretty good.  Some book reviewers have faced far worse than I have, others have faced far less.  For the most part I’ve put up with it and have not called out authors publicly because I didn’t think their behaviour constituted public humiliation.

Until now.

At 2:03pm on August 3 I received an email via my contact page from an author named Robin Wyatt Dunn.  It was a review request, which as you guys know, I’m currently not accepting from authors.  So, as per my usual policy, I sent him links to my review policy as well as my article ‘How to Alienate Book Reviewers.’  I said this in not necessarily a polite fashion, but more of a brisk one that wasn’t rude.  Specifically, I said: “Here: [link] and here: [link] for my answer.”

If Dunn was like most authors, he would have just given up and left it at that.  I have never gotten a reply to my links before.  Most authors accept that I am not accepting book reviews, that they screwed up by submitting to me and move on.  But not Dunn, oh no!

I had emailed him back promptly at 2:16pm because I happened to be at home at the time.  Five minutes later I checked my email again to find this reply:

Here for my answer to your answer:
http://www.ign.com/boards/threads/whats-a-cheap-quick-and-painless-way-to-kill-yourself.189242754/

I’ll be honest with you guys here: I started to tremble.  Not with fear, but with a mixture of rage and disgust.  There is never, under any circumstances, an excuse to suggest someone kill themselves.  Suggesting someone kill herself because you didn’t follow their clearly stated policy in a place where you should have looked before contacting her is particularly unacceptable.  It’s akin to chastising a child for reaching into the cookie jar only to have that child hit you and scream “I hate you!” at the top of their lungs.

My first reaction as a book blogger was to a) calm down a little bit, at least until my hands stopped shaking enough for me to type and then, b) do a post about the incident.  I wanted to have documentation of the incident as well as show readers who already were on my blog for the discussion post about bad book blogging experiences that I’ve also had bad experiences.  Yes, my first post was a little incoherent because I was so mad/disgusted.  That’s why I’m writing this post now.

I’m not seeking to defame Dunn, but rather to get the book blogging community as well as the author community aware of this problem.  The problem here is author entitlement and a general lack of respect for others on the internet because you’re not face-to-face with the person you’re suggesting commit suicide.  Authors: you are not entitled to a review.  You are certainly not entitled to a review when a reviewer has closed their submissions.  And you are definitely not, under any circumstances, entitled to suggest that a reviewer find a “cheap, quick and painless” way to kill him/herself.

My example here is rather extreme, but it speaks to a huge problem within the author and book blogging community.  If one author behaves badly, it reflects badly on all of them, especially when that author is within the self-publishing community, which still struggles to be recognized as legitimate.  And if we as a book blogging community consistently let authors get away with this extreme behaviour without calling them out on it, we’re only hurting ourselves.

I’m not suggesting anyone do anything about or to this author in particular.  In fact, by even bothering to make a more coherent post about this incident I will likely be giving the author free publicity.  But this isn’t just about the author in question, this is about respect or lack thereof.  This is about the self-publishing community standing up for itself when incidents like this happen and it’s definitely about raising awareness about the kind of crap book bloggers like myself put up with all of the time.

For those of you that are still curious, here is my proof of the incident in the form of a screenshot:

RWD Screenshot

66 comments

  1. lmccj

    I have never heard of this author before. I will not give him the Internet “attention” of even googling his name. Let him wallow in his own despair.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thank you. I don’t think my post here will affect him even a little bit, but it is nice so that if such an incident happens with him in the future there is a record of his behaviour.

  2. Mark Lee

    Though some people may look into this author because of your post, I think a post like this does more harm to an author than good, so don’t feel too bad about this post. Most who read this post I think will blacklist the author, so your work is done.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thanks Mark. If people want to blacklist him because of this, fine. If not, whatever. I want this to be more about this kind of behaviour in general rather than about this particular incident. The indie community seriously needs to stand up more often when this type of behaviour rears its ugly head.

    • Carrie Slager

      That’s a question I ask myself often, you know. Thank goodness years of bullying made me immune to such comments (never thought I’d be thankful for being bullied). Thick skin is important when you’re a book blogger that isn’t afraid to give ‘bad’ reviews.

  3. Mark Lee

    Though highly inappropriate, I can see how his response was ironic, especially if he has any human decency under his rough exterior. Was he actually suggesting you kill yourself? I doubt it, which is what makes the response ironic.

    Of course, this doesn’t excuse him in any way.

    • Carrie Slager

      I would argue they’re unacceptable even on Reddit, but you’re right in that they’re certainly not as…expected…in the blogosphere. Especially within the publishing community, which is generally semi-professional online.

      • Grace

        Exactly. There are some parts of the internet where common courtesy isn’t a given, but the world of book blogging tends to be a lot more civil. One of the best parts about blogging is the strength of the community, and it’s sad to see people abuse it.

  4. Carla J. Hanna

    Carrie, you are so right that there is a disconnect in the book reviewing world. It is becoming more and more unprofessional. I’m worried that reviews will become irrelevant as social media effects popularity campaigns.

    I just read an article attributing the reduction of crime in the United States to the effectiveness of social media to instill empathy for others. I would have believed the unscientific finding a year ago. Not anymore. Social media allows people to behave badly without consequence. This bleeds into the business and hobby of writing and reviewing.

    What was once a professional publishing world is now in transition, morphing into a world in which everyone is a critic and all are writers. Author entitlement comes from the old world of publishing-that a novel deserves to be read. Reviewer entitlement comes from the new world of the power of the review-that an author should have representation or a reputation to be worthy of reviewing. In the past, gatekeepers controlled the product – it was edited and marketed. A business chose to invest in it. A publisher paid a salaried journalist to review the book. The publisher got those reviews back and took the market pulse with its data research and chose which of its 3/4 releases to sink more money into and those titles became bestsellers. Now, authors invest in the product and represented authors compete for eyeballs. The 10 major book reviewers close submissions to self-published authors and all the represented authors who didn’t make the top three for each month want their books read. So they enter the world of Amazon and Goodreads reviews and book blogging.

    What I value about your reviews, Carrie, is that you stick with criteria and judge accordingly. You’re professional. But so many reviews have become unprofessional opinions from the few who choose to comment, a self-selecting group of people who have the time to read and rate. The good: Shades series. The bad: Shades series. The good: lots of original works. The bad: lots of ‘blah.’ The good: Goodreads. The bad: Goodreads.

    In the self-published world, The Shades series became popular from its excited Goodreaders who raved about the erotic sex. Colleen Hoover’s “New Adult” gritty reality fiction for teens was likewise a huge Goodreads hit. In both cases, professional, established reviewers slammed the work for poor editing and absurd scenarios. But after both works became popular publishing houses clamored for both series and both have become NYT bestsellers. That said, I appreciate the Shades and Hopeless success and value the reviewers’ opinions. Hoover has done a remarkable job creating a new genre. I applaud her courage!

    Now, back to why Hoover is relevant. She’s been accused as a ‘badly behaving author’ several times in the last year. In the first week that she published her first novel in Jan 2012, she had 20 reviews on GR and Amazon so trolls said she paid for them. She didn’t. She had 2 very active sisters on Goodreads who pushed her novel and had lots of beta readers who posted. Her mistake was that she defended herself when she was slammed with 1-star ratings (as you know, I goofed there, too). But her sisters’ social network and her marketing made her books successful. Then book bloggers agreed to read after seeing evidence of her success. To me, what Hoover did was no different from what a publisher does. Her sisters pimped her book. So what? (I wish my sisters at least read mine.) A publisher is in the business of pimping books.

    What bothers me is that the trolls felt entitled to slam Hoover (and innocent, insignificant me). What bothers me is that an author disrespected you. What bothers me is that book ratings have become suspicious. Apathy is setting in. Why bother?

    • Carrie Slager

      I know how you feel, Carla, especially in regards to your own Goodreads incident. In a way I wish the world of book blogging was a little more professional and in some ways I wish it would stay the same in that there’s so much variety out there. You can get a full literary criticism worthy of an university essay or just three or four paragraph reviews like mine that focus on what normal people focus on. At the same time, there’s also the bad reviewers out there that seem to have forgotten their fifth-grade grammar lessons and write only a few sentences about the book before tearing the author to shreds. I like how the more popular book blogs are at least semi-professional, however and that ones like the latter are weeded out for the most part.

      The main problem here, I think, is a lack of respect. It’s a lack of respect for faceless people on the internet because typing a string of insults into a computer is less personal than screaming them at someone’s face. It’s a lack of respect by some indie authors for reviewers, who do a hard job with little to no compensation. Sometimes it’s a lack of respect reviewers have for authors when all they want to do is tear down that author to make themselves feel better. The bottom line? It’s a lack of respect.

  5. adtrosper

    I have never heard of this author either but I also won’t bother to google him. That kind of behavior is off the charts wrong and sadly, as you said will impact the entire self-publishing world. Every time a self-published author becomes a badly behaving author, it reflects on the rest of the group as a whole.

    • Carrie Slager

      It definitely does and it makes me a little more hesitant to accept as many self-published submissions as I have done in the past. If this sort of drama comes with it, even occasionally, why should I bother? I do this on my own time on top of a job that has me working six days a week. I’m also starting to think that a lot of bloggers are feeling the same way and are either tightening up their criteria for self-pubbers or not accepting such submissions at all. It’s tempting, but I don’t want to punish the good authors in the self-publishing community for the behaviour of a few assholes like him.

      • Mark Lee

        Problem is that even if you stopped accepting self-pubbers, you would still get requests from the ones who don’t pay attention, the same ones who will treat you badly. So I don’t think it is a solution. You’ll just stop the decent self-published authors from contacting you, missing out on some great books.

        This is probably a good reason to have an agent as an indie author. Even if it’s just a person who professionally sends out book review requests. I think I might look into this.

    • Carrie Slager

      So true. I’m glad that most authors aren’t like this, but incidents like this leave me a little more cynical all of the time. When I began I didn’t think it was possible to become more cynical than I already was, but I was wrong. Humans can be horrible, but I’ve also had some amazing experiences with authors. It’s just a mixture of good and bad I suppose.

  6. Rebecca Vance

    Wow! I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. That would make any self-respecting reviewer tremble with anger. I haven’t heard of this author either, and I doubt we will. With that kind of an attitude, he won’t be out long. Even the so called famous ones from last year, John Locke and Steven Leather (I’m not sure of this last one’s name, I could have it wrong) the buying of all the 5 star reviews and the sock puppetry–they are a blacklist for a lot of other authors and publishers. They won’t touch their stuff. He will dig his own hole and have trouble getting out of it. Since we are all out in the blogosphere, I guess the trolls are bound to come out, but this is a bit more than just a troll. He has a serious mental problem that no review can solve.

    Just keep doing what you do. The majority love your reviews and the few that don’t want to follow the rules won’t matter anyway because they will, by their own attitude, take themselves into obscurity.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thanks Rebecca! I really do appreciate the support and I hope you’re right. At this point I need all the encouragement I can get to keep submissions open to self-published authors.

  7. Alma Alexander

    I…uh…I just don’t know. WHy any “author” would want to shoot himself in the foot like this, I just don’t understand.

    Yes, writers need to be read – books need to be publicised and reviewd – there is a glut of stuff out there and I gather that some are getting a tad desperate about all of it – but yet none of that excuses what this guy did. I don’t even know what he was trying to achieve other than venting his spleen on somebody just because his cup of frustration runneth over and he needed to stab someone with a rusty verbal spork because he needed to share the misery.

    I don’t get it.

    But I hope you found something GOOD to read. Once you calmed down.

    • Carrie Slager

      I’m really not sure why he did that either, to be perfectly honest. It makes no sense and it’s sort of disturbing at the same time. I haven’t heard of such a reaction to a simple rejection in the blogosphere, but I’m sure it’s happened before.

  8. DogG6

    Frankly, I believe it’s just a troll. He may not even be an author at all, and had read your policy already and had just premeditated how to set the entire situation up. Trolls and bullies do that, as they’re stupid, but in an extremely clever way.

    They also want you to rage, as that’s the entire reason for the setup. That’s what their satisfaction in life is, is other people’s misery. They don’t make logical sense many times, because a lot of it can stem from mental illness.

    Personally, I’ve become where I like to joke with trolls. Standing up to them directly is what they want. A reaction is all they live for, essentially. So instead of raging and reacting, I have some fun with them.

    I’ll give a good instance from a time I posted an article on Reddit. I have a somewhat dedicated following both on my blog and on Reddit because of guides I do for a rather complex niche video game series. I posted for another game on a different Reddit. A day later, I had one comment. “I don’t give a single *ommited*”

    My reply was, “We here at Dog House Gaming Blog are happy you have a willingness to donate, but unfortunately cannot afford to giveaway anything right now. For when you do, though, please note that @!#$s are not currently accepted by us. We DO, however, accept Visa, Steam cards, cake, and italian food. Thanks.”

    I don’t ever hint at any sort of displeasure or anger, because I honestly don’t have any. They’ve just become funny to me, because when you can observe them, it IS kinda funny that someone just wants to do that. My favorite phrase I like to sometimes type over chat in games or wherever there’s trolls, is, “but are you trolling in the deep?” right after an insult. This is a parody phrase to Adel’s Rolling in the Deep.

    Basically, the best thing so far I’ve found you can do, is ignore what the trolls say entirely, and use them as a testing site for jokes both good and bad. It drives them crazy, especially when you bring it to big public chats, as they really don’t want to be exposed. They want you isolated, so turn it into an internet Saturday Night Live.

    Don’t rage at trolls. Have some Lulz.

    So yup. That’s the silly stuff I got to say.

    Thanks for reading.

    • Carrie Slager

      Oh, he’s definitely an author. I made sure to do a little research before I did this post, believe me. He has a book out and a search on Twitter reveals that he has had other bloggers review it; he is also on Goodreads. So no, he is not a troll, but rather an author who decided it would be either justified or funny to suggest that someone kill themselves. I can see where your funny approach might work with Reddit trolls, but it can quickly lead to escalation within the book blogging community because then you look like the villain for mocking them.

      • DogG6

        I apologize for not realizing that the book industry is not the same as the gaming industry, and is probably more “mature”.

        However, he still was trying to inflict displeasure on you. He may have done it for different reasons, but in all honesty, it seems to me he acted exactly like a troll/bully, which for me are interchangeable.

        Staying calm and unaffected is still the best action, and you did the right thing to throw Bruce Willis here into the spotlight.

        It just irks me a bit that he might get the pleasure of seeing your displeasure, because no matter how deep his ship sinks, he still got to see that.

        Although, if he’s not a dedicated bully, and is somewhat sane, if not a bit prone to raging, he’ll probably be just worried that he set the wrath of Carrie and the rest of the planet on him.

  9. DogG6

    Just an edit to my last post sort’ve, I know I didn’t really talk about authors, but that’s because it just sounds more like a typical troll/bully to me. Whether he’s an author or not, to me seems somewhat irrelevant, as he’s obviously not known by a single person on the face of this Earth. He may have very well just made that name and all up, as he would just be trolling you more. Or he could be a real person, who had a bad day or whatever. Either way, he was a d**che, (I’m sorry) and it seems like he keeps that link in his clipboard if that’s immediately what he threw out.

    Just seems more like a troll, or even worse, a full on bully. I identify a bully as someone who is typically mentally ill, and seeks out and isolates people who are competent at what they do. Sure, everyone can “bully”, but these people mentally have to, as it’s basically hard-wired in their nogin, sadly.

    Also, anyone can troll, and is encouraged to on the internet because they can remain anonymous relatively easily, unless someone is very technically handy and tracks them down. But some trolls are bullies in real life and on the interwebz, and they’re the hardcore ones. In real life, if something makes no sense why someone would be doing something to anyone — kind of like my sentence at first glance — than it probably means they’re involved.

    Either way, laughing in their face works on any of them, as they want raging to happen, not the intended victim to start laughing their arsenutters off, throwing some one-liners, and sweeping them under the rug. You can’t “stand up” to a bully, but you sure as heck can laugh at them. They are, the masters if deception, but you can be the master of gigglesauce.

    Thanks again.

  10. Rick Gualtieri

    Wow, what a sad little creep. People like that disgust me in general. It’s like nobody ever told them “no” as a child. Double the disgust as I’m a part of this industry and it infuriates me to see people like this who seem to do their damndest to ruin it for everyone (reviews and SP authors alike). I’m sorry you had to deal with this sad excuse of a human being, but thankful you’re making others aware so we know to avoid him (in whatever circles we’re in).

    • Carrie Slager

      It bothers me as well when people like this inadvertently ruin it for the rest of the industry. Even though I know it would be punishing good authors, I’m definitely considering closing all unsolicited review requests until the new year at this point. It will hurt good authors, I know, but I just don’t feel like dealing with this kind of drama again.

      • Mark Lee

        You can always join the Masquerade Crew as a reviewer. You wouldn’t have to directly deal with authors. Plus your reviews for us would appear on our site as well as yours. I also post to Amazon. Diantha posts to Goodreads. You’d be supporting the good authors many times.

      • Rick Gualtieri

        It’s sad to see any reviewer close up shop (so to speak…at least for requests), but I can definitely understand. It can be like stepping into a meat grinder these days. Good luck with whatever you decide.

  11. Orchid @ The Haunting of Orchid Forsythia

    Good Golly! I am appalled that someone would have the nerve to say that to anyone.

    I have been reviewing for nearly five years on my blog and have never come across anything such as this, so, when I do see these posts about authors (and even bloggers) behaving so disrespectfully I am shocked.

    I am very sorry you had to deal with something as horrible as this.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thank you for the support. And I’m so glad that you’ve had only positive experiences with authors! I guess maybe I’m just unlucky because despite the fact that most authors are awesome people, I seem to get more of the not-so-awesome ones than most bloggers.

      Oh well. If it’s going to happen to someone, it better happen to me because I have thick skin rather than some blogger where a suicide suggestion is more than just an insult to shrug off. I don’t want to think of the possible consequences of sending a link like this to someone who is battling severe depression. It’s just sick, plain and simple.

  12. SCH

    This makes me shaking mad. Not only is bullying unacceptable and juvenile, suicide is not a joke nor something to make light of. I hope he comes to know this pain personally for all the lightness with which he handles it. I also hope you don’t have to deal with such scum again. You deserve far better treatment.

    • Carrie Slager

      You’re absolutely right: suicide is not funny, ironic or witty. Ever. I wouldn’t wish a suicide and/or experience with depression on anyone though, even this person who took it so lightly. I do wish he would gain a little more empathy for his fellow human beings, however.

  13. Kelley

    Wow. I haven’t ever blacklisted an author due to their bad behavior, but this one is going to be my first. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this bullshit, Carrie. What the heck.

    • Carrie Slager

      That was pretty much my reaction after I got done being furious. What purpose did his response serve? Was it to vent at me for rejection or was it serious, with true malicious intent? I just don’t know.

  14. Stacy Claflin

    That’s shocking! It’s people like that who give everyone else a bad name. I’m an author and also a reviewer. So far I’ve had nothing except wonderful interactions with other indies. I’m sorry that you had to deal with that.

    • Carrie Slager

      I think it’s awesome that you’ve had nothing but positive experiences! 🙂 That just proves my point that the majority of indie authors are awesome people but that it’s the very rare incidents like this that gives them a bad reputation. However, I feel that when incidents like this DO happen, the indie community has to create enough backlash to demonstrate that they do not find this acceptable in any way.

  15. Daire

    Wow. I feel his reaction may have been a tad on the extreme side? I can guarantee that I will never ever read a single one of his books. As soon as an author shows what a £$%&@~#!!* they just ruin it for themselves.

    • Carrie Slager

      Extreme would definitely be one word for it, ‘erratic’ and ‘irresponsible’ are also applicable. I just can’t believe that an author or anyone for that matter would suggest someone kill themselves ever, especially over something so trivial in the scheme of things.

  16. K.C. May

    Another thought… It’s possible that the suggestion wasn’t meant for you to kill yourself but rather an “I’m going to kill myself because you rejected me.” It’s not entirely clear which way it was intended.

    • LMcCJ

      To this suggestion, I say, this man holds himself out as an author–someone who knows how to use his words to make a specific point. If his wordless post is unclear then he’s either a terrible author or he was deliberately unclear to ensure Carrie couldn’t accuse him of making a death threat, etc. I think he purposefully wanted to make her feel as uncomfortable as possible within the confines of the law (in some areas online threats are illegal). Remember this is one professional contacting another professional–not some Twitter exchange.

  17. R.M. Prioleau (@RMPrioleau)

    Absolutely disgusting behavior. As an author (and an indie one, at that), I am horrified and embarrassed that another author would do something like this. Many times, I visit bloggers’ sites in hopes that they will review my books, but many of them don’t accept books from indie authors because of things like this happening. It’s unfortunate that a few bad apples end up spoiling the whole bunch.

    I’m very sorry that you had to go through this, Carrie. And I’m very glad that you called him out on his inexcusable behavior.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thank you for being the kind of indie author that makes my hobby worthwhile. I know that indies have such a bad rap from people like these and I will do my best to keep my faith in the indie community. It’s just that when shocking incidents like this happen, it makes it harder to accept submissions from indies because you know similar drama will happen again. It’s a Catch-22: you want to support the good authors but you can’t do that without dealing with the bad ones.

  18. Margaret Taylor

    Hi Carrie,
    Thank you so very much for this post. As an Indie Author, this hurts me for you. I detest people like this! It makes me very angry because now he’s making *me* look bad too and I’m very, very careful about all my interactions, whether you’re a fan or a reviewer or another author (Trad or Indie).

    And I’ll be honest. When I put out my latest release, I looked into asking you to review it. But, then I saw your “closed for submissions currently” and moved on. The fact that this schmuck couldn’t take two seconds to see that and then further more responded the way he did makes my heart hurt, a lot!

    On behalf of fellow Indies, I apologize. Please don’t hold his aholeness against the rest of us. We still love and respect you for all that you do! Or, at least I do. That might not be much, but hopefully it’s worth a little something. If it isn’t, I’m happy to bribe you with my freshly baked, Twitter Famous, Quadruple Chocolate Chip Cookies! (no review required for them either! *winks*)

    • Carrie Slager

      Thanks for being so considerate, Margaret. Reading submission guidelines is extremely important and I’d like to thank you for that! I know that most indies are like you: good people who behave professionally around reviewers. It’s just that people like him give you guys a bad name. Not just from reviewers, but from the general public which is still quite skeptical about self-publishing.

      Quadruple Chocolate Chip Cookies? How can I resist those? Darn it, I’m supposed to be eating healthier now! 😉

      • Margaret Taylor

        Well, now, I *could*, maybe, possibly be persuaded to make them a touch healthier…maybe. Tell you what, when/if you open for submission again, you let me know and we’ll talk about the cookies, m’kay? *teasing* If you’d like to sample them, I’d be happy to provide you with a few. Wouldn’t want you to hurt your healthy eating…too much…:D

        • Carrie Slager

          Gah! Stop tempting me! 😉

          Anyway, when I reopen submissions you’re more than welcome to submit. After reading so many of your blog entries I’m quite keen on seeing your fiction writing.

          • Margaret Taylor

            Neva! My cookies will be forever hanging in the back of your mind now…tempting you, calling your name…*insert evil laugh if you please* *rubs hands together* My plan is complete!

            Seriously, I’ve been watching and patiently waiting in the wings for your status to change and I promise you will have a very professional, reasonable request when the time comes. *winks*

  19. PeterPrasad@Twitter.com

    Please accept my appology for an author who has made less of all of us, as writers, readers and human beings. Some feeble writers think their books are babies to be defended. However books are written to be given away.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thank you, but there’s no need to apologize for something you had nothing to do with. His actions are his and his alone, even if they do reflect badly on the self-publishing community in the eyes of some people.

  20. Etienne

    Wow. As the publisher of an anthology that Dunn has a story in, I sincerely apologize. Authors are a strange and emotional breed, however… I mean, I don’t even know what to say.

    I’m sorry this happened.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thank you, but his behaviour is not really your fault. Authors are a different sort of people, but there’s really no excuse for this sort of ‘different.’ Somehow I think basic human decency applies to authors as well, as quirky as they are. 🙂

    • Carrie Slager

      Thanks for the support. And you’re right about not doing the research: what makes anyone think they can submit a review request before even glancing at the review policy on a blog?

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  23. Ginger Nuts of Horror

    I’m sorry you had to put up with this sort of reaction, Sadly it is now becoming the norm. I have had numerous death threats, a targeted campaign at myself, my website and my Amazon profile. Do these clowns not know that we are the lifeblood for them, with book reviewers especially genre ones no one will see their book.

    I cam e close to shutting my site down last week over an attack. Stay strong and don’t let the cretins win

    • Carrie Slager

      The thing is, this is definitely NOT the norm. Experiences like yours and mine are exceedingly rare. They’re horrible and I wish that no one had to go through it but realistically most bloggers will have generally positive interactions with authors, both indie and traditional. That’s why, despite the crap I get, I will not shut down The Mad Reviewer. It gives me comfort that behaviour like this man’s is not the norm and the majority of authors I work with are awesome people.

  24. Kody Boye

    All I can feel is disgust when I see these kind of comments leveled at people. It’s even worse when I see authors — who are supposed to be ‘professionals’ in their field and acting as such — doing the same things to other authors or reviewers. This is the second time I’ve seen something like this happen as of recent.

    Sorry to hear that you had to go through this. I don’t know your background, but given my own mental health issues, a comment like this would’ve severely triggered my PTSD and set me off. I’ve taken the liberty of removing said individual from my friend’s list, if only to save myself from potential hardship.

    Love to you, hon.

    • Carrie Slager

      Thank you and I’m sorry for the slow response time. I just needed time to think over my response.

      Yes, it is disgusting when the one who is supposed to be more professional is the one who is the least professional. It’s never okay to send someone a link like the one he sent me because for all he knew, I really could have been depressed and suicidal at the time. It’s really not even okay to ‘jokingly’ send it.

      If you were friends with this man, I think the best thing you could have done was remove him from your friends list. It’s probably safer for you and it doesn’t give him any extra publicity. The thing is, I wasn’t his first target and I certainly won’t be his last. He’s also attacked editors for daring to edit his work.

  25. mblaylock4

    This story really blows my mind – I mean BLOWS it. What a freak, Carrie. Total freak. I’m still sitting here, shaking my head. Talk about extreme actions…sheesh.

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